Victim mindset and how to stop it

What is a victim mindset?

Victim mindset is when a person has a belief he or she is the victim of life circumstances, and there is nothing they can do about it. People with this mindset blame other people or the system or the universe for things going wrong in life. They often host a pity party as they may not take any responsibilities when times get rough. This makes one feel helpless, as if they have no choice over their life.

Why is it important to come out of victim mindset

It is important for one to let go of this belief, in order to create the life one wishes. When you let go of limited thinking, the opportunities will arise. The truth is, we are in the driver seat of our life. The situations we find ourselves now is the fruit of the decisions we did or did not make. However, when you see yourself as the poor victim, you stop seeing solutions. You feel stuck, and you stop even trying to do better. Holding on to this mindset is like locking yourself in a room and asking the neighbor to open the door.

Most of us go through our lives without fulfilling human potential to achieve the greatness. Having a victim mindset makes us prisoner to self limiting thoughts.

How to overcome ?

The first step is realization. Like to become healthy, you must first realize you are unhealthy. It is better you find out on your own than involving others. Recognize your thought pattern and your defensive reaction. Do you spend most of your time complaining? Do you make excuses for your shortcomings? You frequently say It is not my fault that I forgot about this or that. Observe yourself.

As you begin to see your thoughts, substitute the negative ones with more neutral. Instead of saying this is the way things are, try saying I will look for some solutions. When you find yourself making excuses, pause and then assume your part and say, I know I have failed, and I am sorry, I will do better next time. It is not easy for us to change what we used to. Though it is possible. Not only that, once you start bringing change inside, you will be amazed by what you can achieve.

When you change the way you look at the world, the world will change for you.

ALBERT EINSTEIN